Success in marriage is much more than a matter of finding the right person; it is also a matter of BEING the right person.
- Leland Foster Wood
Friday, February 13, 2009
Tidbits from Dale Carnegie "How to Win Friends"
1. Criticism is futile because it puts a man on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Perfect yourself first. When dealing with people we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, prejudices and motivation by pride and vanity.
Criticism is a dangerous spark to pride.
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools. But it takes character and self control to be understating and forgiving.
Try to figure out why they do what they do.
2. There is only one way to get anbody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.
The only way I can get you to do anything is by giving you what you want.
People desire to be important and crave appreciation.
Smile.
Thought is supreme. To think rightly is to create.
We are gods in the chrysalis.
3. The average man is more interested in his own name than he is in all the other names on earth put together. Remember that name and call it easily and you have paid him a subtle and very effective compliment. His name is the sweetest sound to him.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Remember others are one humdred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems that he is in yours.
5. Talk in terms of the other man's interests.
6. Always make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
Talk to man about himself and he will listen for hours.
1. You can't win an argument. Why prove to a man he is wrong?
The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Misunderstanding is never ended by argument.
2. Show respect for other man's opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong.
Be wiser than other people, if you can; but do not tell them so.
Much of our reasoning consists in finding arguments for going on believing as we already do.
Criticism is a dangerous spark to pride.
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools. But it takes character and self control to be understating and forgiving.
Try to figure out why they do what they do.
2. There is only one way to get anbody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.
The only way I can get you to do anything is by giving you what you want.
People desire to be important and crave appreciation.
Smile.
Thought is supreme. To think rightly is to create.
We are gods in the chrysalis.
3. The average man is more interested in his own name than he is in all the other names on earth put together. Remember that name and call it easily and you have paid him a subtle and very effective compliment. His name is the sweetest sound to him.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Remember others are one humdred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems that he is in yours.
5. Talk in terms of the other man's interests.
6. Always make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
Talk to man about himself and he will listen for hours.
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1. You can't win an argument. Why prove to a man he is wrong?
The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Misunderstanding is never ended by argument.
2. Show respect for other man's opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong.
Be wiser than other people, if you can; but do not tell them so.
Much of our reasoning consists in finding arguments for going on believing as we already do.
The best way to self confidence
The best way to self confidence is to do the thing you fear to do and get a record of successful experience behind you.
Monday, February 2, 2009
Putting homework online
Found a much better way to do the homework online: by wiki. So, that's where I'm off to now.
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